Building Competence

This journal is where you confront the truth about your level of competence as a man…because confidence without competence is fragile, and deep down, you know exactly where you’ve been falling short; you will identify the areas in your life, purpose, and masculinity where you lack skill, discipline, and mastery, and face how that gap has been impacting your self-belief and causing you to see yourself as “less than” other men who have done the work; from there, you will choose the areas of competence that are truly aligned with your purpose and the life you are building, and define the masculine activities that will sharpen you, challenge you, and forge real capability…then you will commit to structured, time-bound action plans that demand consistency, progression, and long-term mastery, so you stop avoiding the work and start becoming a man who is grounded, capable, and undeniable in the way he shows up in every area of his life.

1A (Reflection): Competence

Reflect on the areas of your life, purpose, and masculinity where you may be lacking competence. List out 3 to 5 areas in which you believe you are lacking competence.

Notice how this lack of competence may be harming your self-belief and causing you to place yourself beneath other men based on the perception of being “less than” those who demonstrate competence in core masculine areas. Describe what that feels like.

1B (Declaration): Competence

Review the four categories of competence discussed in the video above.

Declare which two areas of competence align most closely with your purpose, ideal lifestyle, and personality.

2A (Reflection): New Masculine Activities For Competence Area One

For the first area of competence you selected, reflect on which masculine activities you would like to focus on.

Some examples are listed under each competence category, or you may choose another activity that is not on the list.

Ensure the activities you choose align with your personality, purpose, and long-term goals.

List two masculine activities within the first area of competency you selected that you want to begin building competence in immediately.

2B (Declaration): New Masculine Activities For Competence Area One

For the first area of competence, declare your one-week, one-month, three-month, and six-month action plan to begin building high-level competence in each activity you listed.

3A (Reflection): New Masculine Activities For Competence Area Two

For the second area of competence you selected, reflect on which masculine activities you would like to focus on.

As before, examples are listed under each competence category, or you may choose another activity that is not on the list.

Ensure these activities align with your personality, purpose, and goals.

List two masculine activities within the second area of competency you selected that you want to begin building competence in immediately.

3B (Declaration): New Masculine Activities For Competence Area Two

For the second area of competence, declare your one-week, one-month, three-month, and six-month action plan to begin building consistency and high-level competence in each activity you listed.

If you do not have the capacity to start multiple new activities at once, you may stagger your schedule by beginning one activity now and another in two or three months.

The priority is consistency and long-term mastery.